Becoming a Mom is one of the best things in the world. I have loved every minute of the past 22 months since my daughter was born, but let’s face it, momming today is a tough business. Just when you think you’re doing everything right, someone comes along to tell you otherwise. “Well, I didn’t do it that way…”
Everyone has an opinion, and there will always be someone who disagrees with you, even if you are following all guidelines (both from doctors and common sense). You just can’t win!
Nearly every decision you make for your child can be controversial. It amazes me how people feel like your child-rearing is their business, and that they feel the urge to comment on EVERYTHING. Here are 5 Mom topics that seem to bring out all the Mommy shamers, no matter which side you’re on. *Please note that none of these are my personal views. I made certain decisions for raising my daughter, and do not fault others for choosing differently. These statements are ones that I’ve either personally heard, or seen dominate online comment sections.
SAHM vs. Working Mom
Formula vs. Breastfeeding
Formula feed? How could you give your baby those chemicals??
Breastfeed? Put that thing away, and “Isn’t that baby too big to be nursing? You’re going to scar him for life!”
Disposable vs. Cloth diapers
Disposable diapers? You must not care about the environment, or what comes in contact with your baby’s skin.
Cloth diapers? Eww…how disgusting!
Make your own baby food vs. Store bought
Make your own food for the little ones? Must be nice to have that much time on your hands.
Jar food? Do you even know what’s in that?? Chicken nuggets? Ugh…how could you possibly let your child eat such crap?
*Note- I also said (prior to actually having a child, of course) that I’d never feed her nasty chicken nuggets…but hey, when that’s the ONLY thing your child will eat, then nuggets and mac n cheese all around!
Focus on play vs. Focus on learning
Do you feel it’s more important for your child to be running around and playing, rather than spending a significant amount of time studying their letters, numbers, etc? They are going to be soooo far behind their peers in school!
Moms who think it’s important to teach these things as early as possible so their child is ahead of the curve? Geez, can’t you just let your kid be a kid?
The point of this is that different things work for different moms. We are all unique, and will have differing views on what is best for us and our child. NONE of these choices is wrong, so long as your child is loved and cared for! Don’t let the Mommy Shamers get to you. Finding our way as a Mom is often a difficult road…why can’t we just love and support each other? After all, we’re doing the best we can!
What are some other topics that seem to stir up controversy? Have you been shamed over a choice you’ve made for your child?