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Transitioning From Corporate Life To Stay At Home Mom

Making the transition from Corporate Life to Stay at Home Mom

In a former life, I was a traveling sales rep. That was only a year and a half ago, yet it feels like a lifetime. I fixed my hair. Every day. I wore heels. Every day. I was in a different town nearly every day. I met new people, and had interesting “adult” conversations every day.

Like many others my age, I had always determined my worth by how successful I was at work. It was a sore enough spot for me that I wasn’t working in the field that I had spent 4 years immersed in. Unfortunately, I think a lot of college graduates can say that. However, sales was a natural fit for me. I loved meeting new people, and made friends everywhere I went. I also really enjoyed traveling. Exploring new cities and building up my hotel points was fun. I didn’t love the never-ending conference calls and spreadsheets, but that is just part of any corporate job. My job was fun, and I really enjoyed it.

After I got pregnant with my daughter, I started to feel a bit differently. The stress started to get to me. It’s also really hard to enjoy traveling when you’re having to stop on the side of the interstate to throw up. Gotta love morning sickness, or rather, all day sickness! I also started getting major anxiety at even the thought of having to leave her. Every time I planned on checking out the local daycares, I’d always find some excuse not to go.

Transitioning from Corporate Life to Stay at Home Mom

Once my daughter was born, I fell quickly into the “mom groove.” Everything revolved around her, and I didn’t really consider that a bad thing. I absolutely loved being a Mom. The bad part was that I began to forget who I was.

When my maternity leave was up, I did return to work. Luckily, due to the nature of my job, I was able to make my own schedule. I scheduled out-of-town appointments on days that my husband would be working from home. We made it work for a little while, but it was rough. Every time I had to leave, I would cry. The entire drive. I couldn’t go on like this for very long.

My husband and I eventually agreed that I would resign from my job, and become a Stay at Home Mom. I was pretty excited about this. What could be better than being home with my baby all day? I would never miss another moment!

I soon settled into a routine. Every day mirrored the one before. I was on a baby’s schedule, and schedules had to be kept to maintain any semblance of peace around the house. Between nursing sessions, playtime, and nap attempts, there wasn’t a whole lot of time left for me. I had fallen into a pattern, and it was difficult to find the motivation to change it.

When the Baby Blues Don’t Go Away

That first year wasn’t easy, but I eventually began to find little moments for “me time,” and found the motivation to do more than just sit at home with the baby. The crazy thing is, what seemed to help me the most was getting (and actually using) a new planner. Somehow, seeing the housework, outings, and appointments lined out on paper helped me to stay focused and get things done. I also love my to-do lists. Crossing things off as I get to them gives me a feeling of accomplishment. It really is the little things that can make a big difference.

How are things now? Well, my curling iron and straightener haven’t been turned on in lord knows how long. A year? Two? No clue. I’ve become the queen of wash (when I get a chance), air dry, and pile it up in my mom bun. My hair is long, and I do like it down, so some days I fix it (and by “fix” I mean brush it…) but this only lasts maybe an hour before I go searching for a ponytail holder (who am I kidding, I always have like 3 on my wrist). Long hair flopping around just doesn’t work well when chasing a toddler all day. I still wear yoga pants and workout clothes a lot of days, although I can’t remember the last time I actually worked out.

I’ve had to adjust to a new normal. On the tough days, I count down the minutes to nap time and then bed time, but most days, I enjoy every minute of watching her learn and grow. Every cute expression, every little giggle, every time she says, “Mama” just melts my heart. This face makes it all worth it.

Transitioning from Corporate Life to Stay at Home Mom

It takes a lot more motivation and planning to get everything done these days. If there were such a thing as a SAHM welcome bag, I’m sure it would contain a giant Tervis and a Costco size box of K-cups. Coffee is definitely a huge help each morning. Even better if I actually get to drink it before it gets cold.

This is a drastically different life than one I lived a short time ago and it has been quite an adjustment, but I wouldn’t trade it for anything. I know how lucky I am to get this opportunity.

If you are a SAHM, how was the transition for you? What are/were your biggest difficulties?

 

-15 Comments-

  • 2017-06-20 at 9:26 AM
    Bree

    This is me! Sometimes I feel bad because I’m still in my pajamas and hair on top of my head everyday when my husband gets home. I feel like maybe at least once in a while I should get dressed for him, but I never do. Sometimes he comes home and finds where I tried to eat lunch. Just a halfway cooked something or other. I think some people think all we do is sit around and play with our baby all day, but we don’t. I’m way more exhausted from caring for Penny all day every day than I ever was going to work. I love her though. All I want is to be with her.

    • 2017-06-20 at 9:29 AM
      Shawna

      Yes! I do feel like people think we are lazy, but I am constantly busy chasing the toddler around and doing all the regular household stuff.

  • 2017-06-21 at 1:57 PM
    Bela

    You made the “right” decision, Shawna. Glad that you had backing from your hubby. It is the way life is supposed to be for children, with their mother teaching them responsibility in order for them to learn and take care of themselves. To me it seems that is one of the things that is wrong with our society now. Not enough interaction between parents and their children on a daily basis. Proud of your and your hubbys choice.

    • 2017-06-23 at 12:18 PM
      Shawna

      Thanks, Bela! I’m very thankful that I am able to be home with the kids!

  • 2017-06-28 at 11:42 AM

    Totally been there! No one really warns you about any of those tough moments that come with leaving a job–maybe because the positives outweigh the negatives!

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  • 2017-08-20 at 7:42 PM

    This must have been quite the transition! Glad you are finding your groove and even set up this blog to give yourself an outlet 🙂 I am sure it is nice to do something for yourself!

  • 2017-08-23 at 10:05 PM

    Becoming a stay at home mom for me was a pretty easy transition. I stopped working when I was 6 months pregnant. My nausea was so bad I was throwing up more then I was working. After baby was born I enjoyed the whole first year….until the terrible twos happened!

  • 2017-08-23 at 11:08 PM

    I feel the same, and sympathize with most of what you said. That’s why I like blogging.., I find a goal and purpose outside of mommy duties!

  • 2017-08-24 at 8:24 AM

    I always knew I wanted to be a SAHM. I never really found a career I loved before giving birth to my daughter so I wasn’t that impacted by leaving my job. The only thing that is tough is the money. But your post on how to save money will help a lot 🙂

  • 2017-08-24 at 12:00 PM

    I can totally relate to this! I used to travel a lot for work too and it really started to take a toll on me as I got further along in my pregnancy! You definitely made the “right” decision mama! Oh and Yoga pants are pretty much a staple for me now haha

  • 2017-08-24 at 8:42 PM

    What a transition! I totally agree with getting a planner! Seeing everything written down keeping it in order. Otherwise it floats around in your head and you forget because, well, #mombrain. Lol

  • 2017-08-26 at 1:17 AM

    I’m the same way!! I plan and write lists CONSTANTLY! I almost can’t function without doing it haha! The transition was easy for me, and I hate saying that because I know so many women struggle with it… I will say that when we found out I was pregnant, I was a preschool teacher and I LOVED my job. We decided (after many MANY arguments) that we would have to move, meaning I would leave my job. So I stopped working when I was maybe 12 weeks pregnant., so I had plenty of time to adjust.

  • 2018-04-22 at 11:20 PM

    I’m quitting my job soon and I’m so worried that I’ve made a big mistake but I’ve been planning to quit for a year.

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